A friend of mine recently told me he was getting divorced from his wife of over 20 years. I wasn\u2019t surprised at all. Over the past 5 years, I\u2019ve watched this friend shift his belief system and identity. He\u2019s not the same person he was 5 years ago. He doesn\u2019t want the same things he wanted 5, 10, or 20 years ago. His imagined future self no longer involves him being married to the woman he once believed he would be with forever.
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My friend\u2019s choice is his own. My interest as a psychologist is understanding how these things happen.<\/p>\n
This article explains how our identity and goals are formed. It also shows how you can intentionally \u201cslow boil\u201d yourself into whoever you want to be. Indeed, we have all slow boiled into the person we are now and are actively slow-boiling into someone.<\/p>\n
The question is: Who are you \u201cslow-boiling\u201d into? And are you slow-boiling into the person you really want to be? Eventually, the slow boil becomes a point of no return \u2014 and you\u2019re no longer the same person.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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